There Is A Promise Of Hope In Every Challenge

Look back, for a moment, on the times that shaped you the most. Was it the days you were stagnant and still? The mornings you woke and followed the same patterns, same routines? The nights you fell asleep with no real ambitions, just ready to move into a new day? To do the same thing, be the same person you were yesterday?

Or was it the times that your foundation was completely rocked? The days riddled with chaos and questions? The mornings you weren’t quite sure where to go next, what path to follow, or even who you were? The nights you lost your sense of purpose and identity, and so began wildly searching for a new place, a new home, a new road?

Was it the painful moments, the struggles, the challenges that truly brought you to the place you are now? Continue reading

Maybe To Truly Live You Must Remember Your Impermanence

I still remember the bright glimmer of the Lake Tahoe water reflected back with a shine in the whites of our eyes. We were sharing the same extra-large towel, two bodies only having met a few hours earlier, connected under that warm summer sun. This moment I remember so vividly—his long hair tossed over broad, tanned shoulders; the light warming our faces; the sound of his laugh. It was love, yes, but in the strangest way. It wasn’t that I wanted to lean in and kiss him, to draw his body closer to mine. It’s that I wanted to hold his heart in my hands, lay there and just listen to the sound of his voice.

I loved who he was as a person, I loved his soul.

He had turned to me, pouring stories of his past. I could tell by the way his eyes looked away over the water that he was heartbroken—he didn’t have to say her name for me to know.

He was dying—epilepsy—every seizure taking his strength, but not his heart.

I watched the way his mouth moved, comforted by the sound. And in that moment, I did not have words. I just listened. Realizing that he, even with his numbered days, knew far more about living than I did. Continue reading

I Hope You Forgive Yourself For Every Doubting Your Strength

This is a letter to the man who didn’t believe he was ever good enough, to the woman who listened to the negative voices in her head and let her fear win. This is for the guy who let heartbreak determine his path, for the girl who looked at her failures and allowed them to define who she’d become.

This is for the person who’s been lost, the one who couldn’t find a direction, and was so dizzy he or she simply stood still. This a reminder for each and every one of us—in the moments we’ve forgotten how absolutely powerful we were, and how, despite the circumstances of this life, we still have the ability to stand, to continue, to grow. Continue reading

I Am Allowed To Take Up Space (And 10 Other Affirmations To Tell Yourself)

I am allowed to take up space.

I am allowed to exist here, on this earth, in all my mess and glory. I am allowed to be bold, to be hesitant, to move, to stay put, to ask questions, to challenge the perspectives set before me.

I am allowed to exist as I am.

I am allowed to be and become, to create and recreate myself as I see fit. I am allowed to be whomever I choose or change into. I am allowed to lean on others, to rely solely on myself. I am allowed to be proud of the skin I’m in. And I owe no one an apology for how my heart beats.

I am more than my past.

I am not defined by where I’ve been, unless I choose to use the moments behind me to propel me forward positively. I am more than the times I’ve fallen down, or the times I’ve lost touch of who I am or where I want to be. I am not held back by sin, by failures, by moments of weakness because I am and forever will be more than that. I am ever-growing, and stand boldly in this. Continue reading

I Believe In Happiness

I believe in laughter shared between two people. I believe in smiles, extending across the distance of strangers and filing empty spaces. I believe in light and how it flows freely from us when we touch one another, when we kiss, when we speak words of encouragement aloud.

I believe in happiness, and that it is all around, inherent within us.

This world is dark. There is no denying that. There is no pretending pain does not exist, evil does not triumph at times. There is no acting like innocent people aren’t dying at the hands of ones who are wrong, or that sin is not present. There is no escaping the heavy truth that death is looming over us, and sadness often hovers like a cloud.

But even in a world of emptiness and pain, there are still hands reaching out to hold us; there are still voices telling us ‘yes, you can;’ there are still jokes to be told and cheeks to kiss; there are still celebrations and fireworks and success and good careers and mornings waking up to a warm body, whispering ‘I love you’ into the morning air.

There are still sunrises. There are still ice cream cones and forgiveness and second chances woven into our limbs. There are still children to play with and unconscious smiles to flit across our cheeks. There are still memories to be made, ones where we’ll throw our heads back and laugh, spin in circles, and kiss with the taste of beer still wet on our tongues.

There are still an infinite number of moments where joy exists. Continue reading

4 Healing Reminders For Anyone Who Feels ‘Stuck’ Right Now

Lately I’ve been overwhelmed by the possibility to the point that it’s made me feel rooted in my tracks, unsure of where to go or what to do next. Have you ever been in that place? In that place right now? Not entirely sure if you’re doing the right thing, if you’re headed in a good direction?

This is the ebb and flow of life, I remind myself. Ups and downs are natural. And yet, you know just as well as I do that knowing this doesn’t make our tough moments any easier.

The truth is, life gives us many challenges; it’s all about how we face and overcome these moments that defines us.

So if you’re going through a season where things don’t make sense, where you feel unsure or even clueless, where you’re frustrated and longing to feel at peace—read these words from my heart to yours. Continue reading