Fight For The Freedom Of Your Own Heart

When we think of love we think of relationships. We think of falling into the arms of someone who understands us or being with someone whose heart sings of forever. We think about dates and sunset walks, hand in hand across moonlit beaches. We think about two pairs of shoes by the front door or two toothbrushes in the cup by the sink. We think about crossed paths and intertwined dreams. We think of love as this answer to everything we’ve been missing.

And yes, love is absolutely and without a doubt beautiful. But when was the last time the word ‘love’ crossed our mind and we thought of ourselves? Continue reading

Just As You Are, You Are Enough

You are enough. Enough for the beautiful things of this world. Enough for the laughter, for the love that you deserve. Enough for the blessings that will come to you, sometimes when you least expect. Enough, even in the hardest moments, because who you are is filled with the strength and resilience to overcome.

You are enough—enough power, enough love, enough spirit, enough passion, enough of everything you so often convince yourself you lack. Continue reading

30 Simple And Wonderful Things That Happen When You Start Loving Yourself

1. You look in the mirror, and smile.

2. You appreciate that little birthmark on your cheek, the wrinkle above your eyelid, and all the small things you used to label as blemishes or imperfections.

3. You wiggle your toes and marvel at the simplicity of something that not all people can do.

4. You pull out those heels you tucked in the back of your closet, and you rock them.

5. You admire your hands and what a blessing it is to hold others in yours.

6. You notice your leg muscles and walk with pride. Continue reading

Fighting Feelings Of Inadequacy

Being a human is so damn hard. Honestly, I just want to take a moment to acknowledge that. In our daily lives, we just don’t give ourselves enough credit. Instead of relishing in our successes, we’re so quick to look for the next thing. Instead of being proud of all that we’ve accomplished, we’re turning our heads to see what the person next to us is doing, and measuring our pride in comparison. This go go go attitude can be motivating, but when we never take a breath to be satisfied, to be excited, this becomes unhealthy.

I’ve always been a big believer in self-sufficiency. My entire life has been built around the longing to be independent. I’ve written countless articles about being a ‘strong woman’ and what that means in today’s world; I’ve prided myself on being able to stand on my own feet. But if I’m being honest, sometimes this perspective can be damaging. When I get into the habit of doing everything alone, I push people away. Or when I’m so determined to be the best, I start looking at everyone else’s success and feel worthless in comparison.

I just want to take a moment to acknowledge that we all do this—the comparing game, the frustration, the feeling of unworthiness when we measure ourselves to the other people around us.

Sometimes it’s so easy to get wrapped up in the ‘poor me’ attitude, looking at someone else’s photos on Instagram and thinking, ‘wow, they have it so much better,’ or ‘damn, they have it all figured out and I don’t.’ But honestly, none of that is really true.

We’re all in different places, on different paths. We’re all starting from somewhere, and half the time the people we compare ourselves to aren’t even on our same playing field.

But when we focus our attention on what we don’t have instead of what we do we put ourselves in this place of inadequacy and defeat. We’re setting ourselves up for failure before we even begin because we don’t have the mindset of positivity and success.

And really, that’s where everything starts—the belief that we can. Continue reading