Being a human is so damn hard. Honestly, I just want to take a moment to acknowledge that. In our daily lives, we just don’t give ourselves enough credit. Instead of relishing in our successes, we’re so quick to look for the next thing. Instead of being proud of all that we’ve accomplished, we’re turning our heads to see what the person next to us is doing, and measuring our pride in comparison. This go go go attitude can be motivating, but when we never take a breath to be satisfied, to be excited, this becomes unhealthy.
I’ve always been a big believer in self-sufficiency. My entire life has been built around the longing to be independent. I’ve written countless articles about being a ‘strong woman’ and what that means in today’s world; I’ve prided myself on being able to stand on my own feet. But if I’m being honest, sometimes this perspective can be damaging. When I get into the habit of doing everything alone, I push people away. Or when I’m so determined to be the best, I start looking at everyone else’s success and feel worthless in comparison.
I just want to take a moment to acknowledge that we all do this—the comparing game, the frustration, the feeling of unworthiness when we measure ourselves to the other people around us.
Sometimes it’s so easy to get wrapped up in the ‘poor me’ attitude, looking at someone else’s photos on Instagram and thinking, ‘wow, they have it so much better,’ or ‘damn, they have it all figured out and I don’t.’ But honestly, none of that is really true.
We’re all in different places, on different paths. We’re all starting from somewhere, and half the time the people we compare ourselves to aren’t even on our same playing field.
But when we focus our attention on what we don’t have instead of what we do we put ourselves in this place of inadequacy and defeat. We’re setting ourselves up for failure before we even begin because we don’t have the mindset of positivity and success.
And really, that’s where everything starts—the belief that we can. Continue reading