On Being A Better Feminist (And Other Good Reads)

I spent the end of last week reminding myself what it means to relax. I don’t know if you’re in that mode, it being summer and all, but I struggle, sometimes, to just rest. I love the rush. I love being busy. I love having to-do lists, obligations, responsibilities, and plans. But sometimes it’s so hard to detach from that lifestyle, to be centered in the moment and put work aside.

I think it’s even harder when my ‘work’ isn’t really work at all. I love writing, connecting, sharing my heart through social media. But this passion can make it difficult to draw a line between when I’m working, or just living in the present. And this past weekend I tried to be a bit better about that. I tried to log off, to unplug. I listened to music, didn’t even record for my favorite DJ because I wanted to watch the whole thing in the moment and not behind a screen. I didn’t wake up at the crack of dawn to write. I slept in, I talked, I sat at a coffee shop and sipped on a cold drink and pet a dog and took deep breaths. As silly as this sounds, sometimes it’s hard for me.

Do you ever feel so inundated with information, articles, blogs, lists, LIFE that you forget how to live it?

Anyways, all that is to say I didn’t get around to sharing my reading list until today, but here’s what I’ve really ruminated on over the last week. Reading together and sharing thoughts connects us culturally, globally, spiritually, academically, etc. So I hope you always feel welcomed to comment and take part in the discussion. Continue reading

‘Good Love Is Boring’ — Weekly Reading List

1. By far, my favorite article of the week was this piece on good love being boring, and what that means.

“By “boring,” I mean stability, consistency, reliability. We can hang our hat on these things; we can only build on a solid, unwavering foundation.”

We’ve become so comfortable with putting love synonymous with ‘excitement,’ ‘passion,’ even ‘fear.’ And while I’ve always believed real love is all those wild and beautiful things, it’s also comfortable, too. I think there’s a line we have to draw and understand in the difference between crazy and toxic, fun and erratic, challenging and just plain difficult. There’s something to be said for the love that shakes us to the core, but being with someone (in terms of forever) is not constantly going to make us feel the butterflies we did when we first met.

This isn’t a bad thing, it’s the truth. Over time love becomes comfortable—but to be honest, that’s a good thing. Comfortable love, or ‘boring love’ as this article describes, is the wonderful type of affection that provides security, stability, warmth. And that’s worth celebrating just as much. Continue reading